Kids who see their parents bicker during a separation or divorce are more likely to develop a fear of abandonment, new research warns. And even if a youngster feels close to one or both parents, that fear can still undermine his or her mental health down the road. The findings stem from interviews with roughly 560 kids between 9 and 18 years of age. Parents and teachers were also interviewed. Interviewers first asked kids how frequent and intense the conflict between their parents was. Then they asked how often kids felt like they were caught in the middle — for example, being asked by one parent to carry a message to the other. Finally, researchers wanted to know if their parents said bad things about each other. “We found that exposure to conflict predicted children’s fear that they would be abandoned by one or both parents,” said lead author Karey O’Hara, an assistant research professor of psychology at Arizona State University in Tempe. “In turn, children who reported higher fear of abandonment were more likely to report more mental health problems 11 months later,” based on interviews with both the kids and their teachers. Such problems included bottled-up feelings of distress and/or general feelings of anxiety or fear. O’Hara said this was more than expected given the participants’ mental health when the study began. And… read on > read on >

















